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November 2009 
What makes a good conversation?
Posted on Sep 22nd, 2009
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RLtruthseeker-artist
RLtruthseeker-artist
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for September 22, 2009:
When two people love the same thing. Then they are not focused on themselves or trying to put on any masks. They only love something, and are passionate about communicating any new information or their own insights into it. Once people divide themselves up into, "I like this aspect (of reality)," and he or she "likes this aspect of reality," then we work on hiding the aspect the other person doesn't like, and we are no longer open and spontaneous to be who we are. Our conversation becomes forced, and the new information becomes "mine," and our insights aren't freely shared. We think we can "control" the information, instead of revealing it and sharing it freely. Revealing information can take some tailoring to it in order to fit the individual's worldview, but it should still be shared.
It is so great when people are in shared resonance...that sometimes we can just share the information, and we both feel the same way about it.
It is so great when people are in shared resonance...that sometimes we can just share the information, and we both feel the same way about it.
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It is so great when people are in shared resonance…that sometimes we can just share the information, and we both feel the same way about it.
That is lovely, especially as I come to shared understanding on issues I cannot communicate on everyday basis with others in deep mutual resonance and similar understanding. Even lovelier I feel to be to be able to communicate something to another that we don't have full mutual understanding of, and still we are capable to uphold that deep mutual resonance and acceptance.
This can happen more often, if I tune into the worldspace of the other by finding that same space in myself. Then I can reveal my views in an authentic way to the other without so mutual resonance so easily being lost. It can be quite revealing to me to perceive what comes out of my mouth in those situations. It is an easy way to do shadow work in everyday communication while simultaneously keeping the communication lively, vibrant and unforced.
Irmeli
Thank you Irmeli. I will use this technique of yours. “Not knowing” together! Seems scary…but at the same time curiously intriguing. Thanks for your insights.
rl.